Remembrance Ideas
After the initial shock of the loss of our child Robb, I wanted to do something, anything, to honor him and ensure that time would not
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Northwestern Football Stadium
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Something huge, like carving out the side of a mountain with his face on it would have worked. Though we never of course could do anything like that, we did a couple of soothing and satisfying acts. For example, we planted a simple tree in our front yard. Every day we are reminded of him when we look at it. Its nice to watch it grow and when ever I stop for a moment to think of it, I'm reminded of Robb in a very positive way.
In addition, planting the tree itself was very therapeutic for us. It was a decent size tree and the mount of dirt weighed 30 pounds or so. It was somehow satisfying to lift it, struggling with the weight and the akward shape of it. Digging the dirt, where we planted the tree, was also tough but good work. The ground was very hard and we had to go down three feet or so. Two of my other children helped, so as a family we bonded while we sweeted and planted this tree. It took us several hours to do this. In a way, it was like a burial in reverse. Twelve years later the tree still grows. And I'm reminded of Robb just about every day. And of course the tree continues to live and grow.
One other thing we did, was buy Robb a Memorial Brick at the Northwestern University's (his school). It's placed in the football stadium. He was a huge "Cats" fan and it warms my heart to think somehow his presence is still in the football field, watching his team.
There are so many things you can do. I think it is so important to do something. No matter how small or large. For example, once in a while I see people with custom T Shirts with pictures of the deceased on it. Custom candles and jewelry. What a nice way to keep someone you love close to you with a locket or necklace with their name on it. It's comforting.
The banners on this page are for a company we really like. They have so many unique and classy remenberance items, such as memorial trees, forget me not necklaces, memorial stones and custom candles. They've been on the Oprah show as well, here's their link. The Comfort Company.